Regular reminder that being an asshole is not a symptom of any form of neurodivergence. (You can replace “neurodivergent” with depressed, anxious, bipolar, etc. and the diagram works equally well)

ETA: social faux pas, awkwardness, and genuine symptoms of neurodivergence don’t make you an asshole. I shouldn’t have to say this? An “asshole” is someone who enacts a pattern of abusive, controlling, harassing, and/or harmful behavior with no remorse or concern for how other people are affected.

  • Magicalus@discuss.tchncs.de
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    3 days ago

    …no. He is making the active choice to be malevolent, there is no concept of friendship here. He has friends; I am not one. I have made my boundaries clear, and he has just said that he doesnt feel like respecting them.

    Also, this is exactly the kind of overapologetic bs that means I can’t just tell him off, because then Im the bad guy for being mean to someone with an imagined tragic backstory.

    • Possibly linux@lemmy.zip
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      3 days ago

      You aren’t being mean. Honestly it sounds like you went out of your way to be nice.

      I just think that chances are there is note going on. It really isn’t on you and he may just dislike you as a person.