Hey I don’t know where to post this. I can’t find a good sub for this topic.

My grandparents died and my mother is respecting the last wish of not getting anything from them and wants her brother to get it all, which is fine, because she is adopted by her parents sister and will get what her mothers sister has (house etc.).

While this should be easy she could refuse, the issue we are now facing is that it will be passed on to me and my sister.

I told my oncle that I would not accept the inheritance if my sister also refuses to.

Now that my oncle also has a property he promised my sister that she’d get it if she refuses to accept the inheritance. Now I talked with him about it because the property is worth about 15.000 €. He said he would give me 5000 € instead.

Now I don’t know what to do. My sister says it was rude to ask him for money because it isn’t our right to accept the inheritance and that the property has nothing to do with all this it’s a gift from him to her.

Well I see it like that too so I said that I will also not accept the inheritance if our oncle gives me 50% of the property as well. She is now saying I am so greedy and that we aren’t in the position to tell our oncle what to give.

Now this is going even further: I just found out the house my oncle will sell (parents house)is worth 200.000 $.

I am thinking about visiting him and have a talk about that. Why should I refuse the inheritance for 5000 $ even though the property is worth 15.000 $? Why should I refuse to accept it if I know I could also get 100.000 $ if I sell the house too?

I mean I have nothing to do with my oncle. So does my sister, she doesn’t even visit him once a year. She also doesn’t know about the house or else she would take the inheritance as well.

What would you do? I have a feeling that my sister and oncle don’t want to give me anything at all.

My mother told my oncle to give me the money for what the property is worth and my sister the property so it is fair.

I told my oncle that if he can get my sister to not accept the inheritance that I’d also not accept it and he can keep the property. But now that he had promised to give it to her (my oncle is a tricky person… so I don’t know if he will actually give it to her or screw them over) and my sister is also a tricky person, she wanted my mother to give her the house so my mom can live rent free in it and I don’t get anything once she dies. She didn’t say it like that, but I and my mother know. She also doesn’t know that she ain’t getting anything from that house because of how she treats mom and our grandmas sister.