• Brian Ragle@sh.itjust.works
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    21 hours ago

    The men who are successful with dating are already dating or active in places where they are finding better success than clubs and arranged dating events.

    The men who are unsuccessful at dating are confused and wary about women, who are no longer the compliant trad-wife wannabes that these men were lead to expect exist in numbers by the likes of “manospherian” influencers like Peterson, Tate, et al.

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      20 hours ago

      Its a lot more than the tiny incel community that is having trouble dating. The truth is most men don’t date anymore, they don’t even attempt to date. Its not about their expectations but the result of lived experiences as well as the culture they find themselves in.

      There’s no pain from rejection if you never try, and without family members encouraging them to date or friends setting them up on blind dates there’s no actual reason to try. Relationships simply aren’t worth the risk or pain. Instead just hang out, watch porn to take care of basic needs, and never admit loneliness is a feeling; it probably won’t work out well for humanity but it works out well enough individually.

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        2 hours ago

        Not sure where you get the idea that “most men” are not dating. The description you make of what “most men” are doing sounds pretty much verbatim lifted out of something in the incel community.