• 1st panel : spongebob in a stand caption reads “Single trans woman”
  • 2nd panel : a huge crowd gathered around spongebob
  • 3rd panel : spongebob adds a little paper on his table saying “I don’t use my penis”
  • 4th panel : the whole crowd left.
  • Stonewyvvern@lemmy.worldEnglish
    8·
    1 day ago

    Long time ago Ally McBeal aired an episode where everyone had a problem with a dude dating a trans person (not sure if the nomenclature).

    They all had a problem with her having a dick. The dude dating her didn’t have a problem with it. But somehow everyone made it into a problem where there wasn’t one before.

    I just don’t understand how or why it was anyone else’s business to begin with. Culture social whatever nonsense reason they used to get involved was weak and shallow.

    Kinda showed how people will rationalize sticking their nose in where is doesn’t belong.

  • random@lemmy.blahaj.zoneEnglish
    3·
    1 day ago

    I’m a gigahon and way too ugly for any partner, appearently no man wants to date an ugly girl with a dick, that looks like a man

  • millie@beehaw.orgEnglish
    3·
    2 days ago

    Honestly I’ve been too agoraphobic since COVID to even really put in the effort. I have Bumble sitting on my phone with no profile filled out and that’s as far as it’s gotten.

    But like, even the first panel sounds like kind of a boost. 😅

    • blindbunny@lemmy.mlEnglish
      81·
      2 days ago

      I dig dating trans men. I get to talk about motorcycles and guns and they usually want to help work on cars or motorcycles with me. Hang out in the woods and shoot rocks and in general do gross dangerous stuff together. For context I’m a cis bi sub

    • Zeke@fedia.io
      12·
      3 days ago

      This is why I’ve personally dropped it. I can’t do HRT, bottom surgery is out, political trouble isn’t worth it, and I’ve already been turned down just for using the pronouns he/him. To add, I am in fact a bottom and straight. That little bit of self love doesn’t really feel worth it in my case.

      • Kit@lemmy.blahaj.zoneEnglish
        8·
        2 days ago

        Valid, I stopped T a week ago after 15 years and I’m playing around with the idea of detransition. At this point I feel I would be happier.

        Edit: This is in no way an implication that anyone else should stop HRT or pursue detransition.

      • JokeDeity@lemm.eeEnglish
        4·
        2 days ago

        Please don’t take offense to this I’m just trying to follow: straight in this context means you’re attracted to?

    • Chloë (she/her)@lemmy.blahaj.zoneOPEnglish
      136·
      3 days ago

      At some point I think it’s just better not to tell people you’re trans , like If you have a neovagina and pass there is literally no visible difference.

      • captainlezbian@lemmy.worldEnglish
        5·
        2 days ago

        Not if you’re actually looking for a happy partnership. It’s one thing if it actually doesn’t come up, but if you’re hiding it from a partner, well, you’re hiding an aspect of your life from your partner.

      • Ada@lemmy.blahaj.zoneEnglish
        30·
        3 days ago

        I have no desire to blend in to cishet society. I spent too long hiding in a closet to just get in to a new one, even if it is more comfortable than the old one

        • Chloë (she/her)@lemmy.blahaj.zoneOPEnglish
          5·
          2 days ago

          You make a good point 👍🏻 I was moreso arguing for not disclosing you’re trans in situations it might be difficult. I whole heartedly agree with you otherwise<3

      • Norah (pup/it/she)@lemmy.blahaj.zoneEnglish
        10·
        2 days ago

        Bottom surgery leaves a fair few scars, and neovagina’s don’t always function in the same way. This might work for trans women that are straight, but I doubt it would work for those that are sapphic. Someone’s going to notice if they’re eating you out (please enjoy my dumb joke about men not giving head).

        • Ada@lemmy.blahaj.zoneEnglish
          7·
          2 days ago

          I had bottom surgery 7 years ago, and my scars are pretty much invisible these days.

          That being said, I still don’t think people would mistake it for a cis vagina in the long term

        • Chloë (she/her)@lemmy.blahaj.zoneOPEnglish
          61·
          2 days ago

          I’ve heard that even a gynecologist could be “fooled”, there is a lot of info about neovaginas out there I’m not sure what is true and what isn’t :/ (Joke enjoyed c: )

      • howrar@lemmy.caEnglish
        82·
        2 days ago

        That sounds rather dangerous. There seems to be a not-insignificant number of people who would get irrationally angry at being tricked into having “gay sex” and thus being turned gay, and the only way they know to ungay themselves is through violence.

        • SamboT@lemmy.worldEnglish
          41·
          2 days ago

          I dont understand how you guys think its okay to trick someone like that. How can you not respect a partner like that? How would it be irrational to be very upset by that?

          • howrar@lemmy.caEnglish
            3·
            2 days ago

            I say irrational to describe the degree of anger. Being upset about it? Sure. I don’t expect to understand it, but I can accept that it’s upsetting to some people.

            • SamboT@lemmy.worldEnglish
              31·
              2 days ago

              Non-consensual sex is pretty egregious… I hope you understand that.

              • howrar@lemmy.caEnglish
                2·
                2 days ago

                Of course. There’s the obvious requirement of consent before the act and continuous consent throughout the course of the act. Things become a lot less straightforward when it comes to revoking consent after the fact. I’m not convinced that violence is ever warranted in these scenarios.

                • SamboT@lemmy.worldEnglish
                  2·
                  2 days ago

                  Violence is never warranted but theres no confusion about consent. You cant get consent if you arent giving the terms to consent to. Consent means an understanding. This isnt iTunes terms and conditions.

                • Comment105@lemm.eeEnglish
                  1·
                  1 day ago

                  Angrily revoking consent after the fact is very common and understandable when STDs are involved and undisclosed.

                  There aren’t a lot of other examples I know of, maybe if one party know they were related and didn’t say anything.

                  But do you see the issue now?

    • Comment105@lemm.eeEnglish
      14·
      3 days ago

      You’d get a pretty similar bottom right as a straight cis guy or girl if you wrote “I don’t use my penis/vagina”, maybe a few more than zero, but not much.

      • JasonDJ@lemmy.zipEnglish
        51·
        3 days ago

        Please hyphenate the words “bottom” and “right”…it took me too many tries to figure out how to parse that in this context.

        • Comment105@lemm.eeEnglish
          5·
          2 days ago

          Well, I guess you’d also get a pretty similar bottom as a straight cis guy or girl if they wrote “I don’t use my penis/vagina”, so it’s probably not wrong even if you read it wrong.

    • Chloë (she/her)@lemmy.blahaj.zoneOPEnglish
      7·
      2 days ago

      More than you would think, my previous partner evidently was. she was pretty great but never understood my bottom dysphoria. and always assumed I had “male” desires.

    • stevedice@sh.itjust.worksEnglish
      10·
      3 days ago

      Not trans but I think the issue is more that there’s a lot of chasers. My opinion comes entirely from the many I saw on Grindr so take that with a metric ton of salt.