I was to see a chart of how much of that is L, G, B, T, and Q broken down over time. Definitely would have been mostly G at the start, now T seems to be growing the fastest. We’ve honestly made a ton of progress, gay marriage is so normalized it’s not even a maga talking point.
Now that we’ve got the serious stuff out of the way…being left handed obviously makes you gay.
I would assume that’s the case, especially when you account for the changes to what counts as trans ober the past century. You used to have to lie your ass off to get hormones if you were anything short of perfectly gender conforming and straight. When I started a decade ago there were still people who would deny you hormones for just the wildest shit, like a friend got told she had to wear a dress and makeup to therapist appointments to get approved, and it wasn’t like an old person who said that, it was the therapist.
Hell I know people who transitioned in the 90s and back then the question was if you told your friends and family or just moved to a different city and start a new life. So like yeah of course a lot of people would see that and decide that what amounted to treating depression wasn’t worth that.
anything short of perfectly gender conforming and straight
Shit, I fell directly into that category & I still delayed my sex change by 10 years after my first attempt at coming out.
It worked until it didn’t. And yes it was hell, I lost years of my life, and wouldn’t wish that on anybody. I think about how much I missed every day, but also, younger me wasn’t wrong.
Yeah unfortunately your experience was common. Transition used to be seen like how some Christians see abortion “necessary in some circumstances but to be dissuaded as much as possible and only done when absolutely necessary.” Many straight and gender conforming trans people were stopped in some way from transitioning and stories of bi and gay trans people lying our asses off to doctors in order to transition were common enough to eventually contribute to the removal of orientation from the diagnostic criteria.
The fact is I transitioned at a unique time. I started hormones in 2015, I was 20 and people far braver and more self aware than me had set up the ground work for me. I had old ideas that I’d picked up as a teenager in my “am I, no I can’t be, but am I” waffling. I was brave to tell my therapist I’m a lesbian, but if I got a no I’d’ve probably just done DIY. Same for if RLE was demanded of me. I was on a downward spiral from puberty to that point and I’d waited until it was transition or die, like I’d been told to do by other trans people. And of course that was the advice back in the day, they put you through hell to transition.
I like to think I might have been more like Susan Stryker back in the day, but it took seeing someone like me be trans to accept myself. Sometimes self preservation looks like digging in your heels, baring your teeth, and telling the world to try and stop you, but so often it’s doing what you did, accepting a wound and going back to hiding for some time. Self preservation is a virtue.
I was to see a chart of how much of that is L, G, B, T, and Q broken down over time. Definitely would have been mostly G at the start, now T seems to be growing the fastest. We’ve honestly made a ton of progress, gay marriage is so normalized it’s not even a maga talking point.
Now that we’ve got the serious stuff out of the way…being left handed obviously makes you gay.
I would assume that’s the case, especially when you account for the changes to what counts as trans ober the past century. You used to have to lie your ass off to get hormones if you were anything short of perfectly gender conforming and straight. When I started a decade ago there were still people who would deny you hormones for just the wildest shit, like a friend got told she had to wear a dress and makeup to therapist appointments to get approved, and it wasn’t like an old person who said that, it was the therapist.
Hell I know people who transitioned in the 90s and back then the question was if you told your friends and family or just moved to a different city and start a new life. So like yeah of course a lot of people would see that and decide that what amounted to treating depression wasn’t worth that.
Shit, I fell directly into that category & I still delayed my sex change by 10 years after my first attempt at coming out.
It worked until it didn’t. And yes it was hell, I lost years of my life, and wouldn’t wish that on anybody. I think about how much I missed every day, but also, younger me wasn’t wrong.
Yeah unfortunately your experience was common. Transition used to be seen like how some Christians see abortion “necessary in some circumstances but to be dissuaded as much as possible and only done when absolutely necessary.” Many straight and gender conforming trans people were stopped in some way from transitioning and stories of bi and gay trans people lying our asses off to doctors in order to transition were common enough to eventually contribute to the removal of orientation from the diagnostic criteria.
The fact is I transitioned at a unique time. I started hormones in 2015, I was 20 and people far braver and more self aware than me had set up the ground work for me. I had old ideas that I’d picked up as a teenager in my “am I, no I can’t be, but am I” waffling. I was brave to tell my therapist I’m a lesbian, but if I got a no I’d’ve probably just done DIY. Same for if RLE was demanded of me. I was on a downward spiral from puberty to that point and I’d waited until it was transition or die, like I’d been told to do by other trans people. And of course that was the advice back in the day, they put you through hell to transition.
I like to think I might have been more like Susan Stryker back in the day, but it took seeing someone like me be trans to accept myself. Sometimes self preservation looks like digging in your heels, baring your teeth, and telling the world to try and stop you, but so often it’s doing what you did, accepting a wound and going back to hiding for some time. Self preservation is a virtue.