Just about everyone looks better when they smile. It’s true regardless of gender. I don’t see where sexism enters the equation.

I feel pretty oblivious. What am I missing?

  • jbrains@sh.itjust.works
    6·
    6 days ago

    Tell us a story of the last time you witnessed someone telling a man to smile because he would look so much better if he did.

    I can’t, either. That’s why.

    • mushroomstormtrooper@lemmy.world
      2·
      4 days ago

      Well people have frequently mistaken me for a woman most of my life and thats happened to me a few times. Its intrusive and irritating to be told I should look a certain way, especially by a stranger and I would consider it rude to say to anyone unsolicited.

      Thats not to say its not worse for women having to deal with the objectification layer, too.

    • btr_fan87@lemmy.world
      1·
      6 days ago

      I agree with the sentiment, but I, a man, actually have customers tell me to smile more weirdly often working retail.

      • jeffw@lemmy.world
        2·
        6 days ago

        And they say it’s because “you’re prettier when you smile” or something like that?

      • jbrains@sh.itjust.works
        11·
        6 days ago

        That’s one exception that doesn’t surprise me. Do you have any sense of how often they are doing this with intentional irony compared to with genuine obliviousness?

        • btr_fan87@lemmy.world
          2·
          5 days ago

          It’s really only creepy old dudes I get it from. It seems pretty genuine most of the time. These comments are more frequent and more egregious with my women coworkers, though, as one might expect.