I’m in love with my new power washer. It’s transforming our house.

I did. I don’t know anything abut them and Wikipedia seemed to suggest they were a type of alligatoridae. I originally googled “caymen crocodile”, so it could have been worse.

What’s with that weird ai bullshit ? There’s real videos of giant otters fighting alligstors if you want that sort of thing

I’m not criticising Linux gaming - I know basically nothing about it. Just my own experience over the last year, where I’ve tried buying and playing a couple of games and had difficulty getting them working, tried different Proton versions etc. But maybe I should be trying the window versions? My question was just innocent curiosity, but looking at my downvoters I’ve obviously touched a nerve!

I’m not very experienced with Linux gaming, and the last game I tried (xcom) crashed consistently, and reading forums people were suggesting using certain Proton versions and other stuff. I eventually gave up. I also got uncharted:LOT refunded because I couldn’t get it working in Linux. So if it’s “click install and click play” the great! It is straightfoward.

I married my partner, after being with them for over a decade, and a few years of living together full-time. It was mostly for admin reasons (we just bought our home, and being married made things easier if one of us died). If it wasn’t for that I don’t think we would have bothered. We know we love each other, and had decided a few years before that if we’d get married if we ever needed to, so it wasn’t like we ever ‘proposed’. Just a tiny ceremony with two friends as witness, and we went out to a restaurant for lunch afterwards. I don’t think it cost us anything beyond lunch? Maybe a tiny admin fee?

But… I’m so happy we did! It’s weird! I never really cared, and rationally, I still think it hasn’t changed anything. But somehow it feels… really nice? I still regularly think (and tell them) “I’m so glad I married you”. I’m sure there are lots of other things that you can do to symbolise your relationship or commitment. If I got a tattoo inspired by my partner I’d probably have the same feeling of looking at it and thinking of them that I do when I play with my wedding ring (2€ piece of silly junk from aliexpress. And we each bought a bunch of spares so that when we inevitably lose them it’s not a problem). But actually a marriage is one of the simplest and cheaper ways (if you don’t choose or feel pressured into turning it into a stupid moneysink).

Tldr: didn’t care about marriage, got married for tax, and weirdly found it deeply satisfying in a completely unexpected way.

It’s working on Linux? Was it straightforward to setup? I’ve given up buying games on steam because of their terrible Linux support, and I’d seen a lot of comments about the steam deck version sucking, so I’d assumed the Linux version wasn’t great. But maybe the deck hardware is the issue?

Thanks! Intresting read, and I like the style.

It’s really depends what your interests are, and what your expectations are. I think my interests are pretty lemmy adjacent (nerdy stuff like games, tech and such) and there’s daily posts on big general groups, but even slightly niche groups like c/dnd only get a couple of posts a week. And even when small communities are more active, it’s often just a couple of brave posters keeping things going.

Lemmy has a tiny fraction of the user base of a site like reddit (who claim 97 million active daily users, while lemmy probably has less than a million unique users ever). So, for now, your unlikely to see the frequency or range of posts and comments you would get on reddit. Tbh, for me that’s not an issue. I feel like the conversations and chat that happens even on main communities like asklemmy feels personal and more interesting, and I’d rather read four interesting comments than scroll through a hundred hot takes and dumb jokes.

I think lemmy is at a difficult point where people who use it need to step up and post more, and be the community they want to see.

In the UK you are free to basically just change your name if you want. In fact, part of getting it “officially” changed (like for a passport) is proving that you’ve been using the new name in daily life for a while. There’s a restriction about not using the new name for fraudulent purpose", so you can’t pretend to be someone else or whatever, but really what you call yourself and what you want others to call you is your business. I was genuinely surprised that most of the rest of the world thinks it’s acceptable to dictate people’s names to them.

Same as Liz Truss killing the queen. Sometimes, when you’re old and in poor health, you just experience something that makes you think “fuck it, I don’t need to put up with this shit anymore.”

Do you mean a gyroscope?

Woof. I dread to think that I would remember in such precise detail all the dozens of lemmy posts and comments I’ve read this morning. But it’s quite a thought!

It depends on what you overthink. If it’s anxiety and stress stuff, you might be right that doing that with some safe support (friends, partners, professionals) might be wiser. But there are some techniques for quantifying and putting into perspective worries. Something that a therapist recommended and has helped me is to track specific, measurable and reasonably immediate anxieties, then tracking if they were justified or not.

So I don’t bother writing down vague big concerns like “maybe I’m a terrible person / it’s the apocalypse / etc” but if I’m stressed about an upcoming event, interaction, or outcome I can write it down, record how anxious I am on 1-10 and then the day after it happened I record how big a deal the consequences of it actually are. And for me at least, I would often be very worried about something, but afterwards realise that it didn’t really matter much. Even if it went badly, it was just a bit awkward, it didn’t actually make my life worse or ruin anything, unlike the anxiety which impacted my life much more and for much longer. If I spend a lot of mental energy and make myself miserable trying to avoid some relatively minor negative outcome, then the medcine is worse than the disease.

But my main type of overthinking isn’t really anxiety related, it’s just not thinking clearly about what I’m interested in exploring (adhd related, probs). And journalling has been great for that, I don’t worry about getting it right or it even making sense, I just start writing about an idea. And even if I repeat or contradict myself it doesn’t matter, I’m not writing a book or blog, this is just for me. And having to slow down my thinking to writing speed, and consider what I’m saying, helps me actually pursue a train of thought rather than just thinking chaotically about a topic.

That third one is surprisingly deep

Lamps? Or am I missing something?

Thanks! I don’t know why people are downvoting you. The OP literally asked what people felt, and I wanted to hear your take. I guess they just don’t agree? I’m not sure downvoting someone for sharing their reasonable view is a great system.

Would you mind expanding on that? I picked up that it’s not generally done, but whenever someone replies to something I’ve posted, I generally don’t care, and I’ll often reply to them if it’s worthwhile.

Obviously, some stuff is time sensitive, but if someone wants to disagree with or add to something I’ve said a year or more ago, I don’t see the issue. But I think your opinion is the majority?

Yup, very old wooden drawers. They don’t even have a runner, they’re effectively just a wooden box sliding on a wooden shelf, so loads of friction. Part of why I’d delayed was because I wanted to sand them down and use some proper wax… but never seem to have the time. The soap took 2 minutes and made a huge difference.

Yeah, if you’re already planning on going to the same place, then you can be his cool, settled friend, who already knows how stuff works. University isn’t segregated by year in the way that school is.

If the real reason is that you’re worried that a year of long distance will doom your relationship, then you have to ask if it’s worth changing your life plans for? Especially, if it ends up putting extra pressure on the relationship - if my partner gave up something like that for me I would feel like I couldn’t disappoint them or break up, because i somehow ‘owed them’. Your partner is telling you that he doesn’t want you to change your plans for him - that could be because he doesn’t feel he can ask that of you, but he really wants you to stay. Or he could mean what he says, and secretly be looking forward to the challenge of starting somehting new and learning to be his own person.

But if the real reason is you value your relationship, and you’d rather spend a year with him than go to university, then be honest about that. Then it’s your choice, and it’s not putting pressure on (or infantalising) him. Choosing your relationship over your education is the sort of thing parents might disapprove of at that age, but it’s your life and only you can know what’s the priority for you. But don’t do it because your 17 year-old boyfriend “needs your help” when he’s saying he doesn’t.