Many people are assaulted by family members, co-workers, people in position in power over them, pastors, doctors, peers in school; some are stalkers, manipulators, who use gaslighting, love bombing, and the slow boil a frog method. Many rapist seem kind, loving, gentle on the outside, people go on about how the person would never hurt anyone, or didn’t expect them to be assailants. Some are friends of friends, friends of family, other people at a party, people you didn’t invite but end up being around. Staying away from shitty people is not a solution, not all rapist can be ostracized and many rapist seem perfectly fine on the outside. Potentially anyone can be a rapist Not that everyone is a rapist, just that you can’t assume someone isn’t a rapist just because they’re normally adjusted or trusted in the community. Many victims are children, disabled, or elderly who don’t pick who they’re around.

Then you have rape apologist, who defend rapist even if evidence is damning, even if they are found guilty in court. Victims have little power when the people around them won’t believe them or won’t protect them. Staying away is horrid advice and only puts the blame on the victims themselves.