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  • To start, I am not an expert, just a single 30 year old woman who has had cats for a long time (wait, does that make me an expert??), so this is just my two cents.

    I wouldn’t call that a full on spat, tho it may have escalated if you hadn’t intervened so it’s hard to say, but overall I wouldn’t worry too much about that specific interaction. My two occasionally get in worse disagreements, often because Hashi is a gremlin (who I love, but fr he has a lot of vinegar) and has a strong inclination to intrude on Ripley’s space. Despite Ripley having to occasionally tell Hashi to fuck off, they still get along great like, 97% of the time.

    Just reading body language, neither seemed to be too stressed out or upset. I feel like the feeding set up is a great way to give them positive associations with each other while ensuring they both have the ability to retreat if they want to. You could also take one of your resident cat’s beds or favorite blankets and place it in the foster’s space, ane vice versa, so that they can smell/investigate and get used to the other cat without actually being near each other. This plus time is the way I have introduced new cats to resident cats. The time will depend on how social- or not- either cat is, but more often than not they will acclimate eventually.

    They are both adorable, btw 😍



















  • Mood. There was a time I was standing in line at the post office and some haggard looking mother was doing her best to calmly reign in her child who was busy running away from her, screeching and pulling over every display he could reach, and having zero regard for anyone else in the vicinity. I could see her exhaustion and I wouldn’t wish that on anyone. I usually just grit my teeth and try to ignore it until I can escape, but this time I cut off the kids path when he got close, said “Stop” in the harshest tone I could muster, and ngl was pretty pleased with myself when he went crying to his mom. I did realize in that moment, tho, that I probably shouldn’t have kids.


  • I didn’t interpret their use of the word individualistic as an assertion that those who choose to be child-free are selfish. Selfish has a negative connotation to it that I don’t feel they were going for. I think they were just contrasting that while being a parent requires putting yourself aside and focusing on a different human, being child-free allows a person to focus on their individual goals, whims, what have you.

    I also agree with you that there is nothing wrong with a person choosing not to have kids, and there’s a lot of reasons to pick from. For me, those are:

    •I have never yearned for motherhood

    •I find pregnancy impressive from a biological perspective but at the same time horrific and something I never want to go through

    •I am prone to depression which makes it hard for me to care for myself on a consistent basis so I am not going to bring another life into this world only to be too swamped in self-loathing to take care of them

    •I detest humanity, we have spent our entire existence as a species ravaging the earth as well as each other and I see no end to it. I hate that realistically I will have to watch people be cruel to each other for the rest of my life and have decided not to create another human who has to trudge through this hellscape which undoubtedly will only be worse off in their future