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Oh nooooooooo….

One of the handful of US states who’s unofficial motto is, unironically, “Thank God for Mississippi” really has no room to pass judgement on any state not named Mississippi.

Everything’s wired. Router is a TP-Link BE63, 2 APs w/ wired backhaul. Shield is on the same switch as the synology. STBs are throughout the house, but generally max 3-hops to the Shield/Synology. All Netgear bluebox 1Gb dumbswitches. At some point in the near future, I plan on getting this stuff to a central switch, so everything is a leaf switch away from it.

ETA: if I’m watching something, the network is generally pretty quiet. I have most data-intensive things (downloads, backups, off-site replications) set to happen in the wee-hours.

Got it: qbit == qbittorrent. I’ve thought about getting the remaining docker containers off of the Synology. I may look into that this weekend.

The network testing I’ve done (iperf and file transfers) hasn’t revealed any issues. I’m seeing consistent 1Gb speeds. I could try some wireshark monitoring, I guess.

limit qbit upload speed

Not sure what you’re referring to here.

I see no other issues from the network. The thing that “changed” is me trying to watch 4k stuff on my plex server. Up until recently, I didn’t bother with 4k. No real reason for trying it now, TBH. I’ve never felt that 4k was necessary for home viewing on anything smaller than a 100” screen (my largest if 75”).

I’ve updated the OP to answer this. I think serving the media from the spinning disk is the heart of the problem.

I have thought of that… Most of the daily driver systems in the house are Macs, so it would probably work out pretty well.

For him, it’s about being right. After learning a bit about his past, it seems (to me anyway) that having an autistic kid kind of broke him. He’s been trying to fix it ever since. It’s sad, really.

Copycat!

It’s a fresh wound, and those hurt until they heal. You need to give yourself time. This will sound sexist, but if you were a guy, I’d say you need a good bartender. Not saying the same wouldn’t work for a woman, but being a single woman in a bar kind of opens you up to the kind of attention it sounds like you don’t need, or want, any more of. Still, in lieu of a good friend, just having someone who can hear you vent your pain can be healthy (hence my recommendation for a good bartender - when I was being a detached listener was considered part of the job).

When you’re not venting/working through the pain, try to work on you. Work towards liking/loving yourself.

Unfortunately, the not so nice tend to be the louder group.

“If you believe you’re playing well because you’re getting laid, or because you’re not getting laid, or because you wear women’s underwear [or have a lucky sock] than you are!”

Crash Davis

The path that said:

STOP! DO NOT ENTER! IMMENSE DANGER AHEAD, NOT OUTLET! YOU ACTUALLY TRIED THIS PATH NOT LONG AGO AND NOPED BACK OUT THE FIRST CHANCE YOU GOT!

In other words, the dumbest path we could’ve chosen.

Was talking about this a few weeks ago. Then we spent a week on the Gulf coast of TX, and the rental car collected a pretty good number of bugs. Not as much as when I was younger, but more than I remember seeing in a long time.

Was going to say the same thing. Learning languages and doing puzzles are great ways to build and maintain mental acuity as you age. I have the puzzle part down, need to get off my butt and learn some new languages!

The Sweetest Thing came off as a pretty saccharine rom-com. It was more like American Pie for late-20s.

Gooood Yogi!