Kay Ohtie

I’ve cried at my psychologist place multiple times but each time was not because of her. It was welling up of deep, un-addressed feelings, or a sense of relief of some kind, or sometimes pure catharsis.

Sessions were often exhausting but because of being emotionally engaging and being about things that were deeply emotional to me. I apologized several times for becoming overwhelmed, feeling weird as a chubby grown man breaking down, but she always reassured in a way that made me feel safe, un-judged.

Her goal was always to help me work through last traumas and keep improving living on my own. And she helped tremendously.

There’s definitely some crap therapists out there, and some who are great at some things but terrible with others. Then there’s some who have studied thoroughly and keep up-to-date to help people, because even if it’s taxing for them, their passion is in helping people.

Don’t dismiss horror stories or the fear; dismissal isn’t helpful. Guiding instead with positives, with some good to help ease the fears, is far more helpful.

Great job on something like this! I’ll probably give it a whirl soon, I like Nextcloud but find it clunky sometimes because it’s often a bit more than I need. Maybe breaking it up into Immich + this would help! Thank you for sharing your project!

One thing to note, your comparison against Nextcloud has a partially-incorrect point regarding file upload max size. The client does upload chunking, so is unaffected by the Cloudflare issue as well, but I believe the web client is still affected, just not the apps. https://docs.nextcloud.com/server/latest/admin_manual/configuration_files/big_file_upload_configuration.html#adjust-chunk-size-on-nextcloud-side

I suspect a few others may be as well, but I’m only familiar with the Nextcloud one because that’s what I’ve been running, and discovered in making sure I could still upload video files recorded while out and about.

Also love that it looks like a simpler install!

As someone living in a red state, every city here is referred to as a “blue city”, whether people are moving to it or not. State color has shit all to do with it and tends to be how much did we make the assumption land votes.

I could just remap in the emulator too, just hadn’t felt up to such.

Same. Not married, but my partner always had to put in earplugs when I slept with them because I snored so loud, and they were always silent with their CPAP, which was oddly soothing of a sound. Finally got diagnosed after my doctor AND partner both pressured me to. I sleep fairly soundly most nights now. Even got a new mask type yesterday, a minimal contact full face, and I love it. Just gotta adjust my mustache maintenance routine which…to be fair it was already in dire need of, being bushy and rough and uncomfortable, and that upper edge pushing the hairs right back into my face made that all the more obvious. Oof.

I love the feeling of neurons rewiring to form a new pathway of understanding. Or whatever the hell it is. At 38, it’s a pleasure finding I can still learn and build new skills.

Playing Beat Saber and hitting a plateau only to find my focus starts to evaporate over the course of a hard track as I find that flow, that path to just being in it, each skill plateau merely being temporary, is great. Playing guitar and slowly starting to wire my brain for the pathway for barre chords and faster movement along the frets is a crazy feeling. That sense of finally finding the pathways for singing to operate even SLIGHTLY separately from the rhythm of the guitar, those glimpses of polyrhythm? Addicting.

If you’re able, I hope you can teach him to find that pleasure of not mastery, but evolving strengths. Maybe it’s like an RPG where skills can be leveled up over time the more you use them. I know all too well the frustration of imperfection to start, ADHD during the 90s and the whole “perfect student” pressure created a lot I had to undo and still am, but each time I can break free of that it’s rewarding.

So when I make strawberry cake or strawberry cheesecake I take like a pound of strawberries and cook it down into a thick paste that then is folded into the batter.

I can’t tell if OP made cubes out of that paste, which is already bitingly sour from the natural acids in strawberries being so concentrated, or just made jello with strawberry mush and lime juice.

I find myself having to use my Switch pro controller when playing Wii U games on PC, because if I use my Xbox controller I get fucked up on button locations. But somehow holding the slightly different controller shape and button size makes my muscle memory switch for it cleanly.

I liked the series until the point OP is at. The third book was okay but I just could not like Raul Endymion no matter what.

The ending fourth of Rise felt like Disney wrote it. “Oh but you see it’s bittersweet and–” okay but ::: spoiler plot spoilage Anea fucking died and now she’s back in Disney “everything’s okay!” fashion for like 2 years or whatever, yeah she’ll be gone but the book doesn’t bother making even an ounce of progress towards that happening. “And Earth is back, and no one is allowed to visit it while it’s just you and I and then and then and then”. It’s like a fucking 8 year old wrote the ending. :::

“Without user consent” is a load of crap.

Honestly the scale makes me wonder how much is because it’s fucking AI bots.

Try going to an Aldi checkout line.

I’m far happier waiting in line with how absurdly fast they train and empower their cashiers to be then I ever have been at Kroger or Walmart. By now all the cashiers recognize me too because they’re paid well enough to reduce churn like that, and I don’t even get ID checked for alcohol most of the time.

It’s a breath of fresh air after being forced to wait in line for self checkout at any store where everyone is slow. Even myself, and even you, because the machines don’t let you go fast because they don’t trust you or I. It just feels faster because you’re doing something the whole time.

I thought that’d been done already, but if I recall, the vast majority of their funding has come from members for a long time? I’m more concerned about the impact on foreign aid than on them.

Generally, finding the article on the exact same thing at NPR.

More specifically I’d say is go over events and be consistent in recalling then repeatedly. Dreams at least are too shuffled for that unless you’re like, super lucid, and even then it seems to only maintain for so long.

I thought the intent was obvious I guess; the comic artist seems to be saying “being a pretentious dick puts people off you, be kind instead.”

Which like…yeah agreed 1000%.

Open-source training texts intended for pairing with your intended style of output have been around for far longer than OpenAI has been grifting data from the entire Internet and collected book works. It came across like that’s what they’re using, not some shit off HuffingFarce that was built off of AO3 and Harry Potter.

Struggling to read all the comments on mobile so apologies if this is a duplicate, but if you need recipes, Tandoor Recipes. I use it for hosting my own edits of recipes. Since I do baking streams it’s great for me to easily link to my stream for folks who want the same recipe including any tips I’ve added or variations, or something I’ve kinda come up with that’s based off a standard formula.

Plus, using the Kitshn app on a tablet makes for an absolutely gorgeous kitchen companion for reading recipes. Split screening it between the recipe and the chat has been awesome. For real, Kitshn is absurdly polished for an open source app.

I have mine configured with my SSO (Authentik) for login. It’s nice being able to single pane login, and for services where it makes sense, utilize the LDAP outpost feature to login with the same username and password at least (Jellyfin, calibre-web).

Probably rewrite gateway rules. I believe that’s the rule I use for forwarding out over Cloudflare WARP when my ISP is shitting a brick. All I have to do is toggle like one thing now to make it work instantly for all local traffic. Probably just need the same rule applying on the inbound VPN side.

This is the reality of what sapir-whorf was guessing at. The way it’s defined is incorrect IIRC, but the real heart of it I think stemmed from this kind of reality of distinction.

The fact people think it’s normal and don’t realize it’s not, especially once they get older simply being unwilling to think otherwise…yeah.