The amount of times women told me after a conversation that they appreciate me being just friendly and not hitting on them is kinda worrying. We humans create so many problems for ourselves…
We’re the most intelligent species on the planet and we have the most complicated mating rituals that are constantly evolving through time and across cultures. It’s very frustrating but it is what it is!
Emotionally stunted men cannot tell the difference between being friendly and wanting to fuck because that’s the only strong positive emotion they were ever truly allowed to feel as kids/teenagers.
It’s a huge cultural issue, and we can all thank toxic masculinity and the patriarchy for not allowing boys to have feelings or deep platonic relationships and then growing up to misinterpret any friendly interaction as a romantic advance.
Saying it’s just “wanting to fuck” is also toxic masculinity. When someone I’m attracted to is friendly with me I don’t imagine us fucking, I imagine cuddling and talking all night and supporting each other. And I’ve seen women have the same reaction to attractive men talking to them. Physical attraction is obviously part of it but it’s not always or even mostly the case, at least in my experience.
The amount of times women told me after a conversation that they appreciate me being just friendly and not hitting on them is kinda worrying. We humans create so many problems for ourselves…
We’re the most intelligent species on the planet and we have the most complicated mating rituals that are constantly evolving through time and across cultures. It’s very frustrating but it is what it is!
You would think with so much intelligence we wouldnt force ourselves onto others that dont want it and would respect them…
Intelligence has nothing to do with morality.
Emotionally stunted men cannot tell the difference between being friendly and wanting to fuck because that’s the only strong positive emotion they were ever truly allowed to feel as kids/teenagers.
It’s a huge cultural issue, and we can all thank toxic masculinity and the patriarchy for not allowing boys to have feelings or deep platonic relationships and then growing up to misinterpret any friendly interaction as a romantic advance.
Saying it’s just “wanting to fuck” is also toxic masculinity. When someone I’m attracted to is friendly with me I don’t imagine us fucking, I imagine cuddling and talking all night and supporting each other. And I’ve seen women have the same reaction to attractive men talking to them. Physical attraction is obviously part of it but it’s not always or even mostly the case, at least in my experience.