her mother died 2 weeks ago.
I told her I’m sorry but after thinking about what to say I couldn’t come with anything better than repeating sorry again. She then told me and another coworker how she died.
I want to show her that I care but I don’t want her mother’s death to become the elephant in the room each time we talk.
This is not romantic in any way.
I feel like that’s a personal preference. I remember my wife’s father dying, and her mother was an emotional wreck. She was so angry that people kept giving her food, and it just upset her more every time something was left. Obviously, she was kind to the people, but after they left, she was angry and basically told all her siblings take it all now otherwise it’s being thrown out. She threw out tons of good food…
I don’t agree with that, but the one thing I did notice was it’s also difficult to even manage getting all that food as well. It became it’s own problem since finding places to put it all was hard, and I’m sure not something you wanna deal with at that time either.
On the other hand this was all in the first week, OP states it’s been a few weeks, and maybe it would be nice to receive since they probably aren’t getting much now.
Another option I’ve seen is a sign up sheet for meals, so people didn’t randomly do everything at once.
I don’t know her and I’m not a psychologist but that sounds an awful like she’s projecting. I’d bet it wasn’t the food she was angry with.