After months of getting close, the relationship between Trump and his so-called ‘first buddy’ has become ‘fraught,’ according to a New York Times reporter
I’m not here to judge the response of the trans people in that post, that’s their business as far as I’m concerned, just posting that it exists. (I happened to be aware of these folks talking about it so I figured it was easy to cite, I’m sure there are plenty of varied responses that are more diplomatic online)
I appreciate the tone as well, but I think it’s something that’s easier when you’re more removed from the issue. As a cis woman, I have the luxury of not being as directly affected by this joke. You can see from my example that trans people talking to other trans people may be much more hurt and angry. If they were trying to explain this in a thread like this, would it be as easy to hold a civil tone? Would someone in your position have the same patience with someone expressing their pain more bluntly as you have with me? Just some things to think about.
I mean, if someone told me I was a piece of shit for defending that joke in the way I did here, I would probably think they are emotional and irrational and maybe a piece of shit themselves. The conversation would be over at that moment and that’s to be expected. If they were respectful about it, it should go well. I buy that systemically downtrodden people should get more leeway in the way they express their anger, but that doesn’t work in a one on one setting. Tell me I’m a piece of shit baselessly, you’ve shut down the conversation and transferred your emotions to me. Now my guard is up and I want nothing to do with you. This happened to me more than a couple of times and my patience with it is quite low because I have zero reason to convince a dickhead that I’m not one
I’m not here to judge the response of the trans people in that post, that’s their business as far as I’m concerned, just posting that it exists. (I happened to be aware of these folks talking about it so I figured it was easy to cite, I’m sure there are plenty of varied responses that are more diplomatic online)
I appreciate the tone as well, but I think it’s something that’s easier when you’re more removed from the issue. As a cis woman, I have the luxury of not being as directly affected by this joke. You can see from my example that trans people talking to other trans people may be much more hurt and angry. If they were trying to explain this in a thread like this, would it be as easy to hold a civil tone? Would someone in your position have the same patience with someone expressing their pain more bluntly as you have with me? Just some things to think about.
I mean, if someone told me I was a piece of shit for defending that joke in the way I did here, I would probably think they are emotional and irrational and maybe a piece of shit themselves. The conversation would be over at that moment and that’s to be expected. If they were respectful about it, it should go well. I buy that systemically downtrodden people should get more leeway in the way they express their anger, but that doesn’t work in a one on one setting. Tell me I’m a piece of shit baselessly, you’ve shut down the conversation and transferred your emotions to me. Now my guard is up and I want nothing to do with you. This happened to me more than a couple of times and my patience with it is quite low because I have zero reason to convince a dickhead that I’m not one