Identifying with this kind of stuff has been a pretty big source of imposter syndrome and guilt for me personally, at this stage in my journey.
I actually lurked actuallesbians on Reddit for a while (after having it pushed to me in /r/all for a couple of months before that) and the amount of relating to things that I did was insane. From the humour to the concept of travelling 500 miles when you finally meet someone like you and falling in ‘love’ overnight. And a lot of literal blushing, which is something I don’t often do.
But then you also read conversations about how men lurk in places like that to harass and send dick pics and shit and start to feel like a piece of shit creep yourself, even though you haven’t actually considered yourself a ‘man’ for a couple of years and all you do is lurk and upvote things. So I unsubbed. Then kept getting it pushed to me in /r/all anyway, so resubbed. Then unsubbed a little while later again lol. And on that note, I’ve also already subbed and then unsubbed to this community since I’ve been here on Lemmy.
I definitely feel you there. I used to joke that I was so bad at being a man that I got fired for incompetence. But even having identified as nonbinary for like 10 years now it’s hard not to feel like I’m an imposter that just heard “man bad” one too many times and did a transgender about it.
Haha I’ve had that exact same thought! It’s like a chicken and egg kinda situation. Am I non-binary because of my experience of men, or is my experience of men because I’m non-binary? Good to hear that the doubts never really go away lmao.
Identifying with this kind of stuff has been a pretty big source of imposter syndrome and guilt for me personally, at this stage in my journey.
I actually lurked actuallesbians on Reddit for a while (after having it pushed to me in /r/all for a couple of months before that) and the amount of relating to things that I did was insane. From the humour to the concept of travelling 500 miles when you finally meet someone like you and falling in ‘love’ overnight. And a lot of literal blushing, which is something I don’t often do.
But then you also read conversations about how men lurk in places like that to harass and send dick pics and shit and start to feel like a piece of shit creep yourself, even though you haven’t actually considered yourself a ‘man’ for a couple of years and all you do is lurk and upvote things. So I unsubbed. Then kept getting it pushed to me in /r/all anyway, so resubbed. Then unsubbed a little while later again lol. And on that note, I’ve also already subbed and then unsubbed to this community since I’ve been here on Lemmy.
I definitely feel you there. I used to joke that I was so bad at being a man that I got fired for incompetence. But even having identified as nonbinary for like 10 years now it’s hard not to feel like I’m an imposter that just heard “man bad” one too many times and did a transgender about it.
Haha I’ve had that exact same thought! It’s like a chicken and egg kinda situation. Am I non-binary because of my experience of men, or is my experience of men because I’m non-binary? Good to hear that the doubts never really go away lmao.