transfem realizing kissing boys is straight: 😱

transmasc realizing kissing boys is gay: 😱

genderfluid realizing kissing anyone can be gay: 😈

why not both? it’s really just an act of service 😇

you’re faking faking because you really just struggle to accept

Tbf, it is fun in spite of that :3

still want my long hair though ƪ(˘⌣˘)ʃ

Me going from “I’m fine as a man” to “please release me from this male prison!”

she was a spiky egg

It was super cringe when she said that, although they’ve been too busy making an ass of themselves in other ways. It screams of her having trouble with her own gender identity, as F1nn still struggles to define themselves. That TikTok was a clip from a stream a while ago, and due to serious mental health struggles, she hasn’t streamed lately.

me neither, but he makes cute gay shit for some reason ¯\_(ツ)_/¯

Hrt is also far more effective than any antidepressant, just as gender affirmation is one of the most effective mental health treatments by a mile

you can make custom characters from preset options by different artists. you get to make a cute avatar uwu

accidentally misgender euphoria :3

Aww, what a cutie! What are we meeting on Friday?

meanwhile we have to make inferences to the best explanation

This is exactly my point. We don’t. We don’t need to make inferences beyond how they can be used to help people. We can fairly confidently say that it is harmful and cruel to police gender identity and that affirmation is the best way to handle us. We don’t need to bring speculative science into the discussion of how to treat trans people in society, because it just doesn’t change much.

Our understanding of ASD and ADHD was changed in my lifetime in a way that has drastically impacted my care. I didn’t fit into the old understanding of how it worked because doctors tried to fit me into their limited understanding, ultimately missing how their decisions impacted my life. Their refusal to diagnose me as a kid impacts the services I can receive today, intersecting with socioeconomic factors to limit my treatment based on where I live. Their ideas weren’t just theoretical for me, but consequential to my material reality.

I am someone with some experience in psychological research, and one thing people fail to appreciate is how little we actually understand everything. Most psychologists don’t even appreciate why or how we can we use our medical model to describe human differences. They don’t understand that the way society itself is structured directly determines whether a condition is a disorder. They don’t take into account what is necessary to define and what isn’t, flopping around in uncertainty in a way that can cause irreparable harm.

My problem isn’t with your understanding of gender, but your understanding of psychology. It’s fine to think it might work one way or the other, except for the fact that it might actually affect people’s lives. When it comes to treatment of trans people, we don’t need to make any inferences beyond that we exist and deserve respect. We should be given control of our own bodies and lives; the why is interesting, but not exactly important to that view. How to help people is all our medical model can say about people.

You are taking the science of neuro-correlates beyond what can really be said, especially for something as multifaceted as gender.

For example, how does one parse the causes of gender itself from dimorphic sex/gender differences?

There are numerous psychological traits that tend to correlate heavily with sex, and from what limited research exists on trans people, correlate based on identified gender as well. However, it would be totally false to say that these traits are determinant of gender, as many people don’t fit within those generalizations. In all likelihood, few people probably follow the trends aligning with their gender to the letter. Most women have a handful of things that they differ from other women on, and it is the same with men. These traits cannot be understood as the cause of gender with current data, and any theory that claims to do so would be speculation at best. So whenever you look at these neurocorrelates of gender, you must recognize that they might not be due to gender itself. The differences between different gendered brains is important, but it could actually be measuring dimorphic traits instead of gender itself.

Also, the way you dismiss genderfluidity as not a genuine identity is serious overreach. There are few studies on nonbinary identities in general, so saying things about them like that isn’t scientific. It seems more based on your own experience of gender than anything else. For all you know, there is a constant fluidity to everyone’s gender, with some having more than others. Maybe you never dip into another gender, but how can you say others don’t?

We also can’t say that gender truly does not change, only that we don’t know how it could change, and that all attempts to alter it carry near certain risk of serious harm. There aren’t many elements of our psychology or personality that can never change, as our brains are physical substrates that can change in countless ways. The fact that we’ve seen little evidence of gender changing with brain damage indicates that it is a more distributed phenomenon. This makes it similar to consciousness, which does not have clear correlates either.

We are at the infancy of understanding gender, and psychology in general is in its infancy. You’re missing the point in how you’re interpreting the evidence. It’s ok to simply not know. It’s ok to not have an answer. That’s a fundamental part of all science.

Devious tricks? I’m just being honest when I affirm you.

I mainly want you with me bc I’m scared too ><

Let’s go then! (ง ื▿ ื)ว