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    How are so many people incapable of doing the literally most obvious and easy task of “do not fuck children” JFC.

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        They’re not lawyers, though… they’re reporters.

        They’re just reporting what the prosecutors accused the person of and if the prosecutor didn’t use the term “statutory rape” then the reporters probably shouldn’t either.

        They don’t want to get the reporting wrong if they aren’t experts on the subject and even more so the don’t want to expose themselves to lawsuits if they do get the reporting wrong.

        I really don’t think the reporters are trying to minimize the heinousness of the crime (at least not in this case). It looks more like they are just being conservative in what they state.

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    I’m not very surprised that a teacher raped a student. I AM surprised (and glad) that she was dumb enough to talk about it TO ANOTHER TEACHER.

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    17 hours ago

    Always the same wording when the rapist is a woman…

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      One who wants a one sided deal that she snd she alone controls. There’s never a shortage or men who look for other women, but then these kind of people should adapt to an actual relationship.

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      I think that part of this narrative gets fucked because there is a fairly large segment of reporters that fantasized about getting with their cute youngish teacher back when they were in school.

      This is not to say that this is ok. It isn’t. This is SA, CSA, really. And even if the teacher were teaching/seducing 18 year olds on a college campus it would still be a gross misuse of power.

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          He assumed the kid was inexperienced but the average age of sexual initiation in US is 17. Lot’s of boys are experienced at 16.

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            Ummmmm no…. Having had sex does not make one “experienced”

            There are still whole generations of both men and women who do not know what a clitoris is……

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            Just having selfish sex during your teenage years I wouldn’t call experienced. You can say…sure I’ve had sex. Probably lasted 3-4 mins, no foreplay, back of the car. Sneaking around when your parents are sleeping. Yada yada.

            So while sure. You can read a stat that says… oh they do have sex…but will this satisfy the avg woman? Majority of grown men in the middle 20s can’t satisfy women or ignore foreplay. Key areas it takes for a great sexual experience.

            This is power and control. Not the desire for good sex. It’s even more embarrassing that she bragged about it to her friend. What adult woman would be impressed about you taking a 16 year old home?

            Creepy af.

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              Exactly. She’s 26 so asking “what adult woman wants an inexperienced 16 year old” is like asking “why isn’t she only dating older guys”. This kid might have similar experience to guys closer to her age. That being said it obviously wasn’t about quality of sex.

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              Thank you, this was my thought as well. I’m a woman, and it took until my mid-20s (and having an experience with another woman) for me to truly learn what sex is all about. Now in my 30s, I’d say most people I date are “experienced” at sex.

              A teenager messing around with another teenager has a tiny bit of “experience,” but to think that’s the same as the sexual experience as adult has is naive. Teenagers still think porn is accurate, whereas sexually experienced adults know what to actually do.

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      A pedophile.

      Like literally, by definition.

      10 year age gap there, 26 yo woman vs 16 yo dude.

      Flip the sexes around, that’s a pedophile, no argument at all.

      Other than from people who really, really really feel its necesarry to ‘well actually you mean ephebophile’.

      Grooming is kinda the whole modus operandi here, they get off on the power dynamic, in every way you can interperet ‘get off’ and ‘power dynamic’.

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        Considering he is above the age of consent it is obviously NOT pedophilia.
        If she had been a neighbor it would be legal. The reason it isn’t is because she is a figure of authority. Which technically from a legal perspective makes it rape.
        In 14 US states it is actually legal!!
        https://en.wikipedia.org/wiki/Age_of_consent
        Are you really saying 14 states have legalized pedophilia?
        Do you even remember how it is to be 16?

        My sister has been happily married to her husband who is 15 years older than her for 30+ years, are you saying my brother in law is a pedophile because of the age difference?

        You are judgemental and pushing your norms on other people. And it’s disgusting you have so many upvotes!

        I had decided to resign from this debate, but some of the comments here, like yours are just so far beyond what lawmakers have decided in by far the most countries it’s insane. Are you also considering LGBT immoral?

        It’s wrong yes, but the term pedo should be reserved for when it’s justified, which it isn’t here.

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          Are you really saying 14 states have legalized pedophilia?

          Yes. I’m unsure how a State’s law would suddenly change human biology and make a 14 year old not a child.

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            By human biology, a 14 year old is sexually mature and capable of becoming a parent. The terms “child, teen, adolescent, adult” are all social constructs. We as a society have drawn arbitrary lines and even changed them over time.

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          Are you really saying 14 states have legalized pedophilia?

          Yes, asterisk.

          Asterisk:

          Unless those laws specifically have something like… you as a 16 yo can consent to sex with someone 16, 17, 18, some cutoff age after which it goes back to not being ok, then yes.

          (I’m fairly confident a good number of those state laws do include some kind of consideration of that)

          The age differential matters.

          Once it gets too much, its no longer two post-puberty kids exploring their sexuality, the difference in maturity and social status becomes manipulative and exploitative.

          Do you even remember how it is to be 16?

          Yes.

          I was interested in girls my age, +/- one year.

          Lost my virginity to a 17 yo girl, one grade above me, not my teacher, 10 years older.

          When I was 26? When I am now 36?

          Uh yeah, still interested in women roughly my age, though the age range has widened a bit as I get older… doesn’t get anywhere near 16 though, more like +/- 5 at 36, +/- 3 at 26.

          My sister has been happily married to her husband who is 15 years older than her for 30+ years, are you saying my brother in law is a pedophile because of the age difference?

          Assuming your sister, at age 16, married a 31 year old… uh yes absolutely that’s disgusting.

          You are judgemental and pushing your norms on other people.

          Pushing my norms, no.

          I’m expressing my opinion and stances, not mandating everyone else follow them.

          I find your sister and her husband’s relationship to have a disgusting origin, but I’m not going to advocate your brother in law be jailed.

          That would be pushing my norms.

          Judgemental? Oh sure, absolutely, guilty as charged.

          And it’s disgusting you have so many upvotes!

          Well now who’s judgemental?

          Its the internet. People are allowed to have strong opinions.

          I don’t agree with yours, you don’t agree with mine.

          This is… arguably the entire point of an online discussion system?

          Are you also considering LGBT immoral?

          Absolutely not, no, frankly I have no clue how you could even think that would be a reasonable other position to expect me to hold…

          I am queer lol, I’ve dated a trans woman, I’ve dated an ambi-gender person, bi women… I’ve gotten handsy and made out with bi and gay guys a few times… I seem to mostly go for a feminine presenting person, or a person with feminine aspects… but I’m considerably more flexible with that than your stereotypical straight man.

          LGBT relationships are an entirely different thing than massive age gap relationships, I again have no clue how that seems like a reasonable assumption to jump to.

          It woukd be weird and creepy if a 26 yo woman had a romantic or sexual relationship with a 16 yo girl, if a 26 yo man had a relationship with a 16 yo boy.

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            Yes

            OK that’s really enough said.

            I was interested in girls my age +/- one year

            As are most at that age, but how does that make it a norm everybody should follow?
            Most boys like girls, but not everybody. But really that wasn’t what I meant at all, what I was referring to was your ability to decide for yourself at the age of 16.
            Which most countries find you can, and I think was pretty standard among my peers at that age too.

            I find your sister and her husband’s relationship to have a disgusting origin

            You are narrow minded and judgemental with a moral sense that isn’t based on reason. But instead on knee jerk reactions, and probably indoctrinated by religious prejudice. Which is why it surprises me you are not anti LGBT too?
            Your response here confirms everything else I suspected from you, which is why I find it so disgusting you are upvoted.
            It’s nothing but prejudice and pearl clutching. And I can tell you many countries have had experts evaluate and recommend on the age of consent, and 16 is a pretty average age to arrive at. But you apparently think you know better, based on a story where the problem is that a teacher abused her authority.

            massive age gap relationships

            10 years is not a massive age gap, it’s actually pretty normal. My wife is 5 years younger than me, and that’s SUPER normal.

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              You just cherry picked what I said so that you could continue mischaracterize what I am saying, by continuing to say I am or support thing I am not and do not, characterize a personal anecdote and direct answer to a direct question as a reasoning.

              Like I explicitly gave you my reasoning and you just ignore it and say I have none.

              Its especially insane that you say I was knee jerk reacting.

              I took almost an hour to write that out, with intention.

              It is also insane to say that my worldview is based on religious indoctrination.

              To the contrary, it is largely based on a rejection of religious indoctrination.

              Formalization of child marriage is one of the most horrible things that religions, or variants of them, of all kinds, all over the world, do.

              But by the same logic, it can or could also be very exploitative of boys… its just that such societies that go for a child bride norm are almost always patriarchal, though i am sure many men also do not appreciate being forced into marriages.

              It perpetuates a concept of women as property, not people, and normalizes and reinforces their subjugation and inherently inferior, 2nd class nature.

              I struggle to comprehend the mental pretzels you must be brain bending in order to earnestly and genuinely believe all of the things you are saying, you are terrible at argumentative rhetoric and it is obvious you are being disingenuous.

              You are so badly mischaracterizing what I said that I actually have to consider whether or not English is your first language, or perhaps your reading skills aren’t far beyond middle school.

              Finally… yes, a larger age gap is generally much more acceptable… as the age of both partners increases.

              You seem to not grasp the concept that a 25 yo and a 30 yo is pretty normal, a 40 yo and a 30 yo is… a bit weird but could work… a 35 yo and a 45 yo less weird, as they are both older…

              …but a 17 yo and a 27 yo is not ok.

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      Because pedophilia still exists.

      And a 16 year old boy will say yes to pretty much anything sexual, hence why this woman exploited a minor nah, not sugar coating. This woman used a position of authority to rape a child.

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        Also. The teacher profession is all but dead in America. A lot of people that would be bad for students get weeded out through years of education and training. Most school districts are luck if they have more than 50% of their teachers educated/trained. The rest are individuals who could pass a background check. Poor areas, are under 30%. Just because someone can pass a background check doesn’t mean they should be around minors. But schools have no other option.

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          Heh, I applied for a substitute position a little while ago.

          Called back. I’m a MMJ patient, and only have a high school diploma, and no teaching skills or experience.

          They were fine with that. Obviously, don’t bring drugs on campus, but if its just residual in my system its fine with them.

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            My degree is in physical education K-12. When I graduate I didn’t go right into education. When I told one of my professors she cried full on tears. That’s how bad it is.

            I returned to education ~3 years. It’s scary. And I’m in a “wealthy” state. Our school’s are hanging on by a thread even with record low enrollments due to people not having children. (the only schools that were thriving were the ones with massive migrant populations.)

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              I spent a year working at an elementary school, in an IT capacity.

              I was at a fairly wealthy district, but Texas “Robin Hood Laws” distributed a lot of their taxable wealth to poorer districts and such.

              That being said, all the kids that went there for the most part had rich parents.

              So the stay at home moms always organized fund raisers. Bake sales, that kinda crap.

              And the rich kids, or any parents who stopped in, bought treats.

              I mean, it worked… but not without a lot of disposable income at home.

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      Abusing a position of trust is a bigger deal than it seems. Being in a position of power means there was an unspoken element of coercion in the relationship.

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              In this case, age of consent is mostly irrelevant. A 26 year old fucking a 16 year old is bad, legality is unimportant. The fact that she’s been charged, means that it’s probably not legal. How about we just say “wow, that bitch raped a child”, instead of being pedantic.

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                  Legality doesn’t matter to me. This is morally wrong. The age difference is wrong. The abuse of trust and authority is wrong. And linking a wikipedia page to where this would and wouldn’t be legally okay, is a little weird. A 30 year old woman fucking her 50 year old boss is wrong in a similar way, but not necessarily illegal.

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              Your European school’s curriculum went over every single US state’s age of consent?

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                Considering I linked the info from wikipedia, this must be the stupidest comment in this thread.
                Age of a consent is a common thing in all countries, but the age is different.

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            This ain’t his first Internet argument, maybe? That’s why I know it, anyway.

            Knock it off with your bad-faith insinuations.

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              It’s weird to immediately be jumping to the defense of the teacher. This should not be hard to understand. A 26 year old woman raped a 16 year old. It’s very simple. That’s wrong, and in my humble opinion, worthy of punishment.

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            Tons of reasons to research this. For example: can I get person x arrested for what they did to me/my sibling

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      Because it’s the fact that she’s the teacher. A position of authority. It’s why a cop cannot have sex with someone who they pulled over, or why a psychiatrist cannot date their client.

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      Um… “Abused a position of trust” ≠ rape? You might wanna check the definition, friend. 😅😶

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          All due respect, but you seem to be confusing your awareness of the definition with the actual thing. Please do confirm for yourself what the details of this term are. 🙇🏼‍♂️✊🏼

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      Next, are you going to give us a lengthy explanation of the difference between “pedophile” and “ephebophile”?