On the drawing too loud, that could easily be an undiagnosed neurodivergent person with auditory sensitivity. People who are unaware of their neurodivergence can sometimes be the biggest assholes about it. I also have auditory sensitivity and it gets much worse and harder to deal with when I’m stressed and/or sleep deprived. In that state persistent irregular noises are much more likely to make me have a meltdown, especially if I can’t escape. For someone who doesn’t know what’s happening and doesn’t have healthy coping strategies that situation can easily become a meltdown directed at the most immediate irritant, in this case their child, which is really awful for the child. I was in that position a lot as a kid and it fucking sucks. I hated my parents. I’m not sure I can ever forgive them for how they treated me but I know now it wasn’t malicious. Still, the damage was done.
You can’t control being neurodivergent, but you can 100% do something about your reaction to it. Being an asshole is not part of it, if you’re choosing to respond to being overstimulated by “drawing too loud” with aggression towards your kid, that’s just you making a choice in how to deal with it, don’t blame the tism.
On the drawing too loud, that could easily be an undiagnosed neurodivergent person with auditory sensitivity. People who are unaware of their neurodivergence can sometimes be the biggest assholes about it. I also have auditory sensitivity and it gets much worse and harder to deal with when I’m stressed and/or sleep deprived. In that state persistent irregular noises are much more likely to make me have a meltdown, especially if I can’t escape. For someone who doesn’t know what’s happening and doesn’t have healthy coping strategies that situation can easily become a meltdown directed at the most immediate irritant, in this case their child, which is really awful for the child. I was in that position a lot as a kid and it fucking sucks. I hated my parents. I’m not sure I can ever forgive them for how they treated me but I know now it wasn’t malicious. Still, the damage was done.
You can’t control being neurodivergent, but you can 100% do something about your reaction to it. Being an asshole is not part of it, if you’re choosing to respond to being overstimulated by “drawing too loud” with aggression towards your kid, that’s just you making a choice in how to deal with it, don’t blame the tism.
My friend, you may want to look up emotional disregulation.
We’re literally fcking handicapped on the control part