• Baggins [he/him]@lemmy.ca
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    2 months ago

    This is what peak mansplaining looks like. She didn’t ask a question and I’m sure she already knows the why.

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      2 months ago

      This is what peak mansplaining looks like

      Is this just a new form of “Who asked?”? I mean, people can still speak out their opinions even if no one asked

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        2 months ago

        So do yourself and FartMonster2k not know about PornHub, or…?

        An older adult following a bunch of much younger people on normal social media for sexual purposes is 100% weird.

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              You have a strange moral stance where looking at still pictures of boobs is terrible but watching porm is fine. Where do you stand on looking at fully clothed women?!

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          How old do you think the women on pornhub are? What makes them more acceptable to look at over the women on instagram? I mean if we’re talking about dudes perving on private social media accounts of 15 year olds, yeah of course that’s fucked up. But that isn’t at all the implication I got here, rather I assumed he’s talking about OnlyFans models and other young women (not girls) who are offering their looks as a product, like Yellz0 or Kaitlyn Krems. In that case, this is extremely normal, and not really any different than the nearly 100 years of Hollywood; or did you assume the beautiful young starlets were only meant to appeal to their age peers (despite being cast and promoted by primarily older men)?

          Hollywood, magazines, art, sales catalogues, and pornography; they are all selling the sexual appeal of young adulthood. And so long as the men and women being gazed at are willingly and consensually offering the display of their body, and they’re of legal and intellectual ability to consent, then nobody is being wronged here, and nobody is behaving abnormally. These women deserve respect (as do the women on pornhub, to be clear; I’m still trying to understand what separates the two entities to you), and stepping over established boundaries, personal or social, is not okay obviously, but assuming the caveats I’ve outlined, I see nothing disrespectful about buying what somebody is willfully selling.

          As for the age gap… look, we can pretend to be this perfectly evolved species of always equitable and simple moral choices while ignoring literally the whole of human history which heavily implies an attraction in humans to young adulthood that doesn’t seem to wean with age, or we can accept reality for what it is, warts and all. Personally for me, I just don’t see how infantilizing young adults as if they are helpless children in need of constant coddling and viewing every relationship as an inherent competition of power and experience where any imbalance implies irreconcilable differences benefits us as a society.

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              2 months ago

              Okay, I’ll try to make it more appropriate for you. Ahem:

              Why woman sell sex on pornhub okay, but women sell sex on instagram bad?

              Also human think young adult sexy. Always, but also now.

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                2 months ago

                You assume they’re following sex workers on instagram. Nowhere in post it say that. Plenty of weird dudes out there

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                  Young adult women who post thirst traps are looking to be looked at. Especially if they aren’t on a private profile.

                  It’s normal for men of all ages to look at women who consent with open permissions.

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                  Yellz0 and Kaitlyn Krems are not “sex workers,” unless you expand the term so broadly so as to include anyone offering titillation, at which point every model and most actors would fall under it as well.

                  So no, I am specifically not assuming they follow sex workers, I am assuming they follow people who offer titillating content, as expressed.

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                2 months ago

                Not op, but imma be honest with you, I’m currently drunk at an airport bar and I appreciate the absolute fuck out of this tldr

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          At one point, if you explicitly put your body on social media, multiple time, on multiple platforms, that’s kind of the expected behaviour no?

          Sometimes, i wanna watch porn and sometimes I want to look at women that I find attractive. Does that mean that I have to exclusively watch someone my age?

          I much prefer looking at women my age, but let’s be real, the older I get, the less I see them on social media.

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    Guess I’m the only one who read her post and thought the wives were the ones following the young Women.

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    That’s literally the only reason I signed up for Instagram, but over half of my feed has become wholesome videos of people doing arts & crafts, woodworking, cooking, animals, inspiring vignettes, graphic design hacks, and bunch of other things. As cool as those other things are, I just wanted to see boobies.

    And one of the weirdest things about Instagram, is that nudity is banned UNLESS the woman is breastfeeding (and a few other scenarios). So this seems to have spawned a weird sort of genre of what appears to be breastfeeding porn, women who are posting nude videos of themselves while breastfeeding, specifically to get around the nudity ban. It’s kind of weird and exploitative, I don’t really understand why it’s allowed (except for educational purposes, but these videos don’t seem to meet that bar). It’s like, showing breasts is offensive because kids might be able to see nudity and we don’t want kids seeing nude women… unless we film the nudity with kids in it, then that magically makes it ok.

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    I’m not an old dude, but I mean these women need that crowd to make money. It’s weird calling them creeps but at the same time they are posting nearly nude photos of themselves publicly on social media. Who do they think is following that content? Physicists at CERN calculating the new gravitation force off of your oversized diaper butt BBL? medical doctors determining the tolerance a 115lb woman with 1000cc of silicone can tolerate? Get real, you’re posting your tits because you know exactly those types of dudes will follow and you can either trick them into giving you money for feet pics or buying you a weekend in Dubai.

    These 22 year old “model influencers” will be begging for these old dudes to pay them attention when they hit the wall in 5 years.

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          That “hit the wall” stuff is always hilariously transparent. It’s a self-soothe. “She won’t be worth it in a few years anyway so you’re not missing out.”

          I’m 38 and the wall where I stop getting unwanted attention sure never seems to come. Which is disappointing. I’m really looking forward to my crone era.

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            Your comment very much reminds me of an episode of 30 Rock in which Liz Lemon starts dressing like an old crone and acting crazy on the subway to secure a place to sit.

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          Is an incel someone who doesn’t white knight for women who couldn’t care less about their own existence? It’s gotten to the point where incel just means “a guy who believes men and women should be equal”. Yeah, I was exaggerating when I was saying 27 but there are tons of women online regretting not taking relationships more seriously when they were in their 30’s.

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            It’s gotten to the point where incel just means “a guy who believes men and women should be equal”.

            No, that’s not even remotely true, and it’s not what your previous comment was saying either.

            Incels are essentially misogynists with a sexual fixation. Like classical misogynists tend to be more occupied with women having jobs or holding positions of power, while incels tend to be more upset about women’s sexual habits, but both are preoccupied with hating on women they deem to be misbehaving.

            I think the part of your previous comment that gave the most ‘incel vibes’ was the bit about women begging for attention after ‘hitting the wall’ in their 20s. Maybe you intended it as a comment on women who regretted not taking relationships more seriously in their 30s, but it came off as a sort of fantasy where the women who transgressed your model of how ladies should act get their just desserts.

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            Lingua franca dude. I’ve never heard “hit the wall” used outside the man-o-sphere. Maybe not exclusively incel, but incel adjacent at least.

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        I will say that by 27 creepy old men did stop yelling their attraction at me as I walked down the street, which was nice

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        I mean, the statement “those young women, or many of them” is already pretty objectifying. But I also question what he can mean. Is it random selfies taken by women? Is it just seeing women’s bodies devoid of context and sexualizing them? Because that unquestionably would be objectifying, yeah.

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          I mean, the statement “those young women, or many of them” is already pretty objectifying.

          It’s describing them. Objectifying would be closer to “Those hot pieces of ass” or something equivalent. Reducing the individual to component parts.

          But I also question what he can mean.

          People posting their pictures on blast and then getting angry because you looked at them can seem a bit hypocritical. It’s the low-key version of celebrities complaining about being famous.

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      How is this downvoted? Dude literally admits to creeping on women’s profiles so he can ogle their photos. How is he any different from old school weirdos who would whack it to Sports Illustrated?

      This isn’t someone admitting to enjoying porn (which is still a problematic industry in itself but that’s another, more complex, issue). It is someone admitting to looking at regular photos on women’s profiles and fantasizing about their tits.

      That’s textbook objectification of women.

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          Your thoughts are dirty and you should feel ashamed you disgusting sinner!

          Or something, idk they might as well be religious

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        How fucking dare that creepy disgusting old man look at pictures of young, beautiful women QUEENS on a platform where they’re posting pictures of themselves! This isn’t what the internet is meant for, how dare he!

        Hmm

        Edit: I just had to edit it, to really hammer home the mockery.

        Objectifying women is wrong, but - c’mon. This is the internet, you post pictures of yourself on it and don’t know the consequences? That’s on you, or your parents if you’re below a certain age.

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          Cause God forbid we expect men to not by misogynist perverts. Women should just cover head to toe and never show themselves in public because “consequences”, yea?

          Nah fuck that victim blaming mentality. Women should be able to post pictures of themselves online without worrying about perverts objectifying them.

          Men need to learn to be better and held accountable for their shitty behavior.

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            I imagine men will start behaving differently right around the time your head becomes unlodged from your ass.

            Showing yourself in public ≠ posting pictures of yourself online. I understand that, for the terminally online, these things are interchangeable. I am sorry to inform you of this, though it’s probably valuable that you learn it now, but they are not.

            This isn’t victim blaming. This is cause and effect.

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    I wish more women in their late 40s showed pictures of their boobs so I can follow them. Because even MILF porn is like women who are maybe 40 most of the time and I’m attracted most to women my age. I just am.

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    Let people like what they like, whether it’s looking at girls online, cosplay, sports, or being an insufferable cunt on social media.